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Archive for March, 2009
It’s not easy in this fast-paced world to always feel good about yourself. Why is it that when under the pressures of every day life we start to beat ourselves up?
Inside of each of us is a stockpile of negative experiences that can date back to childhood, the teen years, early adulthood, and everything else up to the present. Our inner critical voice, “The Critic” starts to remind us of these negative memories and we feel as if we have failed. And from this defeated place, the critic reminds us of how we are not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, rich enough, etc. But the truth is:
IT IS ALL A LIE!!!
If you look back you will find that the memories you have that feel bad are ususally based in someone else’s actions. Example: in the third grade a teacher singles you out as being a poor reader and announces it in front of the class and puts you in a slow reading group. Your memory of this is one of humialiation and despair, feeling like an idiot and doomed to be stupid all your life. But–It is the TEACHER who is lacking. A loving, caring person would say something like, “Your reading is something we can work on, but you are so very good at science and art(or whatever you were good at, as everyone is good at something!). Then you get the message of your value rather than your lack of value. Your decision of yourself would be totally different if a kinder wiser, more compassionate teacher had spoken.
Take a look at what your inner critic tells you and see if you can trace back where this information, or decision about yourself really came from.
Was it really you? Who was it? Are they still in your life? Can tell your critic to be quiet?
Give back to those that put you down those beliefs and start to claim the new and valuable you.
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